I’m thinking about this. About password protecting my last posts. Because they’re on the darker side and that’s not what my blog is meant to be about. I don’t care for my sake if they’re up. I posted them, and it helped me to write, and you people here have been invaluable. Thank you for being here, and for believing in me. Thank you for your messages C and J. I’m just not sure if I should keep the posts up. If it’s helpful to anyone or not at all. I’d love thoughts…

This week has been a good one. It’s been chaotic and good. And busy. Still messing up and living with destruction, but it’s not the only thing at all. And I’m proud of how I handled my sister – I may still write about it if it’ll help me to. I overreacted in my mind, but in reality I really handled it well. And been trying to get back to journaling which really helps me. A friend bought me a diamond art painting which I did, so ordered another, and have the awesomest I believe in you box to keep the diamonds in (I hope you’re reading this πŸ’•).

Happy weekend….

Been making some pictures for instagram. Haven’t posted most, but here are a couple.

Love, light and glitter

You are one choice away from the life of your dreams.
You are perfect just the way you are.
Your weight does not define you. Your body size does not define you. You are beautiful just because you exist. You are perfect just the way you are.
Will you tell someone they look good because of their weight or because of their smile? Will you tell them they have a nice dress/bag or that they look so skinny?
When I began losing weight I received a lot of backhanded compliments. Wow, you look so good, you lost so much weight. Are you telling me that I didn’t look good until now?
Just because I chose something once (or constantly), it doesn’t mean I have to make the same choice again.
Your feelings do not define you.
Your body size does not define you.

65 thoughts on “Do I password protect my last posts?

    1. Thanks! I really appreciate your support… I know I haven’t been reading your posts 😦 I’ll get there I hope one day soon. It’s a mess, but I want to get to life, which is awesometastic.
      How have you been?

      Liked by 3 people

      1. You are very welcome! Focus on you, that’s what’s important and hopefully get a little closer to awesometastic πŸ™‚
        I’m ok, thanks especially now I’ve learned a new word and that made me smile πŸ™‚

        Liked by 3 people

  1. I didn’t see the posts last night and they aren’t up now, so I guess you protected them or took them down. I would say it depends what you want your blog for. If it’s specifically to spread positivity in a general sense, then maybe protect them. However, I don’t think it’s healthy to always repress negative thoughts. The dark thoughts are still your thoughts and it’s better to own them than to repress them. Also, even if you want to spread positivity, I think it’s helpful to show that we still have dark thoughts. It’s not healthy to be positive 100% of the time.

    I like the instragram pictures.

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Thanks!
      I was referring to the recent posts that you’ve read.
      I want my blog to spread positivity. I wrote them and found it helpful to, and your support as I said invaluable, now that I’m not there, not sure whether to keep them up or not. Thanks! It was good for me to make them… want to make lots more.

      Liked by 3 people

      1. I also say that just being positive can even be or seem toxic for other people because then they think or feel left out because they only see your positive side. Then they could think that everyone around them is happy or positive except for them and even feel worse instead of better from just positive posts.
        But still, it is your blog, your decision and your life.

        Just wanted to say, that it can have this effect and that people (like me) actually feel more positive or hopeful, when they see or read that other people are also not well sometimes or in general.

        That’s why I would say, that maybe some posts which are too personal or you just feel not good about sharing with all the world (at least not now or anymore) would be better protected for now. But that usually people get more beautiful when you see the full picture and not just what they want to show you. (At least for me.)

        I hope these thoughts helped and also great instagram posts! πŸ’œ

        Liked by 2 people

  2. Hey Eliza! May be password protecting your posts could be a good idea; posts can be very personal and you may want to share it with only a select few πŸ™‚
    By the bye, I have missed all the several posts for I was on a hiatus from WP. I hope to read them soon πŸ™‚

    Liked by 2 people

  3. There’s no expectation from readers of your blog to be positive all the time and it sounds like an expectation that you are putting onto yourself. But it’s up to you what you post and if you feel more comfortable making the more vulnerable posts protected, it’s your right to do that. It’s nice to be positive, but there’s nothing wrong with needing support either. x

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Hmm. Not about wanting to BE positive all the time, but spread light rather than darkness. If that makes sense. Writing about destruction isn’t spreading hope or light or joy. I wrote because it helped me to.

      Like

  4. You don’t have to worry about me when it comes to your posts.

    However, since you asked my (our) opinion, I will share my thoughts.

    This is YOUR blog. It should help YOU. If those posts helped you, then that’s great.

    From some of the comments, I read on your site, (and again, a whole paragraph got deleted… ugh…) I see that even your darker posts are helpful to others.

    The image of the blog is also important. If you want this site to only be filled with positivity, then go ahead and password protect some of the posts. However, I, personally know that nothing is 100% positive. Your blog appears more real when it has both – good and bad.

    I hope that helps you with the decision. Whatever you choose to do, we will support you. You have a great community here.

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Thanks S/G. Not sure what to think of you as… your thoughts do help. If it’s helpful to others I’m happy for it to stay. I just don’t want to hurt others….

      Liked by 1 person

  5. I’m a guy that can look past physical. Nobody is perfect. And honestly, sometimes those imperfections are the perfections that are attractive.

    What’s on the inside is paramount. And only enhances the outside.

    Liked by 2 people

  6. I think you are love, light and glitter, even if your life has troubles in it. I also have no problem reading both; I can tell which is you and which is happening to you, and certainly for me, I e found reading other peoples’ struggles has sometimes helped me
    Feel less alone in my own. I think you’d find it hard to keep a miserable blog, it’s just not who you are. It’s not what a person who signs off β€œlove, light and glitter” is all about 🌟

    Liked by 2 people

  7. I used to use journaling as a way to get my thoughts in order. Writing them down always helped me to thing about the tough stuff. I wouldn’t necessarily have wanted everyone reading them, though. I think password protecting some posts is a good idea.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks Laurie. I appreciate your thoughts…
      Most these posts I wrote actually after journalling. I’m so grateful for all that journalling has given to me throughout the years and hope to go back to it.

      Like

  8. Hi Eliza. So glad you are doing well. I love the sayings you have written. If writing helps you then keep doing it and expressing how you feel. You never know, you might just be helping someone else out of a dark place.

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks Michele.
      The posts were describing the destruction in some way. So, for now they will stay. I guess because whilst I’m still living with it, it’s here, and for some reason others have said they’ve found it helpful though I’m not sure how or why that could be so…
      Sending sunshine and sparkles

      Liked by 1 person

  9. On a related note, I change most of the names in my blog because some of those people I’m still in touch with and there might be things that would be awkward for them to know about. But I try to be as real and honest as possible. It actually was surprisingly not particularly awkward at all when I told my mom about the blog after I’d been writing it for a few months, and the first episode she read just happened to be the one about masturbation… (10/13/94)

    Liked by 2 people

  10. What is positivity? Is it a painted smile? Or is it finding your way even through darkness? Helping people is great; but sometimes you can help people more by letting them know the whole story. More often than not, they can relate.

    Liked by 4 people

    1. I know you can. Not sure to what but to lots. I hope not to the actions….
      Positivity is hope. I don’t mind sharing darkness when it has hope mixed in. When all there is, is the description of only destruction, that’s what I wonder about. If it’s helpful or harmful to others. I wrote it because it helped me to. Shared because it helped me to. The replies definitely helped. To know I’m not alone. Now, when the posts aren’t present day (I’m still oding and not eating but the destruction isn’t all that exists) I’m not sure there’s a good reason to have it public. Is this making sense?

      Liked by 2 people

  11. Firstly, love the inspiration quote style images! Secondly, well done with handling a situation that was obviously difficult & realising that while you may struggle with it mentally you can still handle it smoothly. Thirdly, keep writing if that helps you to work things out. Fourthly, it’s your blog so it’s totally your choice about what posts you have public and whether to password any. Personally I don’t feel there’s any need to, so it’s just your choice and what you’re comfortable with. I do think it can help people, just by knowing what you’re going through and thinking because a person reading it may realise they’re not quite so alone in their own thoughts Β β™₯ Ooo I’d love to see the diamond art! I’ve wondered about these for a little while but I don’t know whether I’d find them too fiddly and frustrating, but they really can be very pretty when they’re finished.

    Caz xx

    Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks for the thoughts Caz…
      I really appreciate it…
      How are you doing? Been thinking of you…
      I actually didn’t think of that point, that others may feel less alone.
      I think I’ll find the diamond art frustrating but this will be a gift. It’s one that says I love you to the moon and back and I’ll probably make it for one of my sisters. And do it with my friend who’ll do one at the same time – just ordered the same one for her. On Ebay for 3.19.
      Love, light and glitter

      Liked by 1 person

  12. What is diamond painting? I keep hearing about it, but it confuses me when I look it up. I’m of the opinion to leave the rougher stuff, if it isn’t too triggering. I’ve found having my darker posts to actually be informative this year on several occasions and to help me see patterns in why something that “shouldn’t” be making me upset is, because it’s a subtle trigger. I also feel like the whole world is full of pressure to be “fine” and always get over it. And, sometimes it’s a relief to see that someone else really struggled but also had okay days in the middle. Or vice versa. But, it’s your story. Do what feels right for you always. And many hugs.

    Liked by 3 people

    1. Thanks for this. I really appreciate it. Maybe I’ll go through them when I can and edit out anything too detailed like numbers. I’ve no idea if I’ve written how much I’m eating or taking (oding) and I know the last time i stopped eating it was mostly triggered by a book I read…
      How was your weekend?
      Love, light and glitter

      Like

    2. Lotsa hugs back. I’m waiting to be able to get hugs in real. Though I wish someone could just hold me for a while, you know. That’s not going to happen though.

      Like

  13. Much as we’d like it to, Eliza, positivity doesn’t just happen. Indeed. it’s far more satisfying- and lasting – when we coax it from situations which are less-than-ideal.

    For that reason, I hope you consider leaving your site intact. After all, even when the subject matter tends to be “dark,” that isn’t where it stays.

    That’s the point. Far from capturing one moment in time, our sites take in the whole trajectory. How cool will it be, one year hence, to look back on an entry and to appreciate the full progress you’ve made?

    Liked by 2 people

  14. your blog is lovely & I love all your posts. that said, you need to feel good about blogging β€” why not lock the ones you have doubts about, then unlock them in the future if you change your mind?

    Liked by 1 person

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s