Rambling says it all. This is way too long…..

Today was a really good day. There wasn’t anything specific. I just feel okay. Felt okay the entire day. Slightly dizzy at times, but that’s par for the course. And I ate enough. Well, sort of enough. Hang on, I’ll check how much. Wow, I really did eat enough today. And it was mostly healthy food. Which feels both good and I feel guilty for it. The last week most days I didn’t have enough, and was battling purging the entire time. Today was just, okay.

I’m wondering if some of that is because Rosh Hashonah is over. It doesn’t really make a difference why, but it seems to make sense to be that. It was looming over me and I was dreading it. I wasn’t really dreading it. I don’t really know what was going on, I just needed it to be over. And it is over. And the days were actually really okay. I spent the time reading and with family. We had guests for a couple of the meals, and it was nice to see them, and spend time with them – most the guests are really nice people! I even kept it! That means I didn’t turn on any lights. Didn’t touch my phone or laptop. Didn’t listen to music or journal. I’m grateful I didn’t need to. One thing I wished for, when I went to listen to the shofar (ram’s horn) blowing, was that this year next time I should be able to make the choice whether to listen or not, and I should know. I should know whether Judaism is truth. Whether it’s my truth. I should know what I believe and choose to listen based on my knowledge. Not, as was now, because it may be the truth, and I’m doing what I should if it were truth.

I spent 2 hours sorting out pictures today. I printed out lots and they all came mixed up. I’ve printed all my pictures from 2017 until a couple of months ago. Now I’ve sorted them all into order except for winter holidays. I have to put those in order. Print some missing pictures. Get some albums… and that will be my Yom Kippur activity – putting them in albums. It’ll be good for me to have something to do.

SG told me to text her when I’m free and she’ll get in touch. I did. And she hasn’t told me when she’s available. I know it’ll be okay whatever happens. Just frustrated.

I’m in a kinda weird space. The world is good. Everything is good. My mind is flying. I don’t know how to slow itdown – can’t be bothered doing anything to slow it down.

I’m so grateful for my room at the moment. For my space. For all my stuff. I’ve decorated it really my style. I’ve cleared up the windowsill just leaving lotsa figurines up there, and it really looks pretty.

Nothing else to say. Or more like, too much to say :). After sukkot I really want to make a plan of action for this year. For my life. I feel like all I’ve been doing is spinning my wheels in the mud and haven’t been sorting my life or my world out at all. That everything is still the same. I know that’s not the truth. I know it even from external things. How much less I think of using. How I’m more present. How it’s safe enough sometimes for me to let myself shake. How I can journal things through. How I haven’t bought cocodamol in a while – at the beginning of the year I was buying it constantly, even if and though I wasn’t using it at all. I’m way less extreme then I was then. So yes, things have changed.

There is still all that I want to change. There being so much to change, doesn’t take away all that has changed. I know there should be no comma – I can’t get the wording to be grammatically correct. My grammar is horrendous at times. When I had this phone appointment with SG2 I’d mentioned my mother, how she doesn’t have an identity of her own, since her identity is just tied into that of her children. Therefore if any of her children do anything that she doesn’t like or their life isn’t what she planned for them she sees it as a reflection of herself. It was a throwaway comment not something we spoke about. She asked me if I have an identity. I answered her honestly. No. That’s something I really want to be different next year. I want to know who I am. I want to know where I am. I want to know what I want from life. I want to be able to want altogether. It’s funny, because so much that is messed up is part of why I think nothing has changed. Yet, even this, which to others may sound crazy (that I really don’t have an identity of my own, my life is way too tied in with others), is a good thing. For I know it. I see it. And if I think back to a year ago when I knew that if I wanted to create an identity for myself the only option would be death for it so wouldn’t happen and all the other reasons…. then I know it’s different. I know it’s a good thing. At some point or another I want to make a plan of action and figure out where I am now and where I want to get to and how to get there. I’m not sure how to do that, but, will see what happens. More about that another time.

I told MDK, a random guy I met, that I want to get involved with the community and help. He gave me an email address and told me to offer to help and see if I can volunteer my services at all. I still haven’t emailed this women. I’m not sure why not.

If anyone has actually read any of this, kudos to you. I don’t think I’d have the patience or be able to focus on such nonsense for so long. And thanks!!!!

Love, light and glitter

24 thoughts on “Rambling update 289201

  1. It’s good to hear that you’ve been doing better. Hopefully, it stays that way for a while.
    I think your photo album project sounds exciting. It will definitely keep you occupied for a while.
    Personally, I do not like asking general questions, like MDK is suggesting you do. That’s why I would hesitate to write that email. If I just say “use me”, who knows what they will come up with. I’d much prefer to know what the options are so that I could choose.

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    1. It will always be up/down/around, but yeah, now that it’s over, it’s good… I’m grateful for that.

      I still haven’t emailed! There aren’t many options because really they’re looking for people trained in mental health. It’s a project for the community that a charity has started because the community are a demographic that just don’t use or know about all the available resources. I’d love to volunteer in any which way I can, though I doubt they’ll need or want me…

      Love, light and glitter

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      1. I definitely understand your hesitation. It’s hard to put yourself out there and be rejected. But you won’t know until you find out. And it might be something that will help you AND others. Think about it.

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  2. I have read all of it and I congratulate you on the positive changes you have made this year, including not needing the cocodamol and keeping a journal. I think you could be a great story teller. Have you ever thought about writing a novel or short stories to begin with? I recently joined a local writers club, where I’ve met some wonderful like-minded people, and it has given me a purpose now that I am retired. You obviously enjoy writing at length so I think you’ll find it fun. Helping the community is also a very worthy cause. Whatever you do, be positive and passionate about it. Good luck! πŸ‘β€

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    1. I’m touched Fatima.

      How is your writing class going?

      I enjoy writing if it flows. This particular post really did not flow. I don’t know how to write unless it just writes itself…. I used to tell my little sister stories, and plan novels, but that was when I was around 10. I do enjoy writing. It just doesn’t actually happen and I don’t think I’m very good at it.

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      1. You are very good: you have a way with words.
        My book club meets once a month. I joined in May, but couldn’t go during the summer as I was travelling, so I’ve only attended twice, but it has been very helpful nevertheless.
        Try and write those stories down or make notes as ideas pop into your head. Imagine you’re 10 yearly old again. Happy writing! πŸ‘β€

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  3. I read the whole thing because it makes me so happy to hear that you’re doing well … ithe changes you talked about make me so proud of you! I hope you continue to grow into the person that you are destined to be … you have a beautiful life ahead of you. ❀
    power to the local dreamer ||-//

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  4. Glad to hear you are feeling better, Eliza. When my thoughts start to race, I try to chill by watching benign TV or reading a light book. Hot chocolate just lures me into a calm state. Hugs to you and don’t focus on weird stuff that Mom’s say to us! My mum once told me that she preferred my hair before it turned gray – so did I!!! At least I can dye it blonde!

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    1. πŸ™‚ That’s actually really timely advice. I was trying to just breathe through my mothers comments about getting married, which I’m not interested in, and having kids and whatever else.

      Relaxing is a good idea… I find movies helpful and should watch them more.

      Love, light and glitter

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  5. Sometimes it amazes me how alike we are. I feel the same way. My mom is tied down to her children as well (and I blame that on culture). Do I have an identity? I don’t know. Is it too late to create one? Maye not. How do I create an identity? Can I buy it on amazon?
    But glad to hear you’re doing well. I hope everything works out for you ❀

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